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How do you communicate... with yourself?

I think it's fair to say that the vast majority of us are aware that the way we speak to others is important. Good communication is vital in business and in our personal relationships.  We understand the benefits of using language to encourage, motivate and empower, whether it's our colleagues, employees, loved ones or children.

We have the power within our communication to pick them up, help them along and to spur them on but how often do we apply the same principles to ourself?

How often do you find yourself berating yourself for some mistake or perhaps having a stern word with yourself in order to 'sort yourself out'?

The way we speak to ourselves has a huge impact on our own motivation, empowerment and success. We are often critical, without being encouraging and  unforgiving without understanding. Is there any wonder we sometimes feel weary, down and low in self esteem!

How would a small child feel if you were to say the same things to them as you might say to yourself? When you look at yourself in the mirror what do you say to your reflection? Is it something you'd say to someone else, and more importantly how would it make them feel?

As children my sister and I would often fall out and resort to the wonderful sibling pastime of name calling, thankfully that's no longer a hobby for either of us, but I do remember Dad telling us on numerous occasions 'if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!'.

Maybe we need to use the same instruction with ourselves. After all, don't you deserve to be treated as well as you treat everyone else?